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Referral & introduction ask generator
The fastest way to kill a referral is to make the other person write it for you. Drop in who you're asking, who you want reached, and one line on why you're a fit — and get a respectful ask plus a separately-copyable blurb your contact can forward to the target without lifting a finger.
The ask
Hi there, Hope you're doing well. I wanted to ask you about something, if you have a minute. I'm exploring a role at them, and I saw you're connected there. If you'd be comfortable putting in a referral — or just pointing me to the right person — it would mean a lot. Happy to send a short blurb you can forward as-is so it's no work on your end. And genuinely — if this isn't a fit or the timing's off, it's totally fine to say no. No hard feelings at all. Thanks,
Forwardable blurb
The part that actually gets you the intro. Paste-ready for your contact to forward straight to the target — so they never have to write a word.
I wanted to flag someone worth a look for roles at you. They've got a strong, relevant background. They're sharp, easy to work with, and I'd vouch for them. Want me to connect you two?
Runs entirely in your browser — nothing is sent anywhere. The fastest way to kill a referral is to make the other person write it for you; the forwardable blurb removes that work, so all they have to do is hit send.
Why most referral asks quietly die
The number one reason a referral stalls isn’t that your contact doesn’t want to help — it’s that you handed them homework. When the ask requires them to summarize who you are, why you’re worth an intro, and what to say, the message slides down the inbox until it’s forgotten. The fix is to do that writing for them: a short blurb, in a voice they can forward as-is, so the only effort left is pressing send.
How to use it
- Pick the ask type and how well you know the person — the tone scales so a close friend and a cold reconnection read differently.
- Write one honest line on why you’re a fit. That line becomes the heart of the forwardable blurb.
- Copy the ask for your contact, and copy the forwardable blurb separately so they can paste it straight to the target.
FAQ
How do I ask for a job referral?
Be specific about the role and company, make it easy to say no, and hand over a forwardable blurb so your contact doesn't have to write anything. A referral that asks the referrer to do the writing usually stalls — give them a ready-to-paste line and a clear yes/no.
How do I ask someone for an introduction?
Name exactly who you want to reach and why the connection makes sense, then supply a short blurb they can forward as-is. The lower the effort on their end, the more likely the intro actually happens.
What is a double opt-in intro?
Instead of cc'ing two people cold, you first ask your contact privately if they're willing to introduce you, and they ask the target privately if they're open to it. Only when both say yes does the intro go through. It protects everyone's time and inbox — and it's the etiquette most well-connected people expect.
How do I make it easy to say no?
Add one explicit line giving them permission to decline — something like 'totally fine to say no, no hard feelings.' Counterintuitively, removing the pressure makes people more likely to help, because the ask reads as respectful rather than transactional.
What should I send the person making the referral?
A short, forwardable blurb: two or three sentences in their voice that they can paste straight to the target. Include one line on why you're a fit. This is the single biggest thing you can do to get a referral over the line — never make the referrer write it for you.
How do I thank someone for a referral or intro?
Reply quickly, keep the referrer in the loop on what happens, and close the loop again when it resolves — good or bad. People refer most readily to those who make them look good and report back. A genuine thank-you, and an offer to return the favour, keeps the door open for next time.
How Wend handles this
The asks that land are the ones where you actually remember who knows whom — which old colleague is now at the company you're targeting, which friend backs funds in your space. Wend builds the graph of who you know where, so when you need an intro, you already know exactly who to ask.
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